Relationships, oh what a beast of a subject I have decided to tackle. This is more about romantic relationships and not platonic relationships. I’ll talk about platonic relationships in a different post. I have been in one relationship and it lasted 6 months, oh and it was in 8th grade. All the advice I can give take it with a grain of salt. This is what I have learned from all of my failed attempts at relationships. Being in a relationship is something that I desire more than I can fully express, but it also my biggest fear. Weird right. Anyway, the thing that appeals to me most about being in a relationship is that there are no walls and you are 100% real with each other, or at least that is the hope. The thing that terrifies me about being in a relationship is that same thing. Letting someone in that much to my life, showing them what scares me, what makes me tick, what I’ve been through and what makes me how I am is terrifying. I am so afraid that he will see me for who I am and run for the hills. I am so scared that he will see me in my brokenness and decide it is too much and I don’t know how I’ll recover. I have so many walls built up around me to protect myself and it took a long time to get them to where they are. However, some people still manage to through my walls and get into my heart before I realize how far I have let them in. It feels like everytime that has happened I get my heart broken. Either because they realize that I am too scary and damage or they don’t realize how much of myself I have let them have access to and then they walk away. I see so many people around me who are so in love that it makes my heart yearn for that kind of relationships. On the flip side, I see incredible guys and girls who are taken for granted by their significant other. They aren’t treated the way they should be, they aren’t valued and shown how truly wonderful and special they are and because of that their relationship brings them down instead of lifting them up. Brothers and sisters, realize that you have so much worth and that you are so deeply loved. If you are in a relationship where you don’t feel that, then get out!! Whether you have been in the relationship for 2 weeks or 2 years, you need to feel loved and appreciated and not made to feel like you are being needy because you want to be wanted. It is not too much to ask for from your significant other to want to talk to them every day or be their first priority. God has someone lined up for you who will love you with their whole heart and give you the world. That’s not to say that relationships won’t take work because it will. No relationship is perfect without work, and if you think the relationship you have is then take another look at it. But having that one person with makes the work worth it. They are your rock in the hard times, your cheerleader in the good, they support you but aren’t afraid to call you out when you are wrong or doing something you should be doing. In a relationships, you need a partner and equal person who will help you to carry the load. Don’t be afraid to be vulnerable and let your walls down because it is so worth it when you do. Also if you are in a relationship that you don’t see having a future, ie marriage, don’t be afraid to tell your boyfriend/girlfriend they deserve to know and the longer you wait the more invested they will get and the harder it will be on you and them when you end it.
A Regular Girl